tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368056645691128384.post1912697129760938049..comments2023-05-17T13:15:50.282+01:00Comments on Only Resting: This is NowBarry Fotheringhamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16158013718479616955noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368056645691128384.post-31993178904954002592011-04-10T02:40:28.320+01:002011-04-10T02:40:28.320+01:00hey there
thanks for sharing. I did not question...hey there<br /><br />thanks for sharing. I did not question your absence online, because I too come in and out. and as for grieving, you must let go to it because it is an ongoing and ever-changing beast.<br /><br />I have been sick some seventeen years, diagnosed with cfs for ten. I still grieve today. however acceptance and diluted expectations helps.<br /><br />take care of you, take all the time you need. <br /><br />thinking of you xoxoxoMarzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06397550642253454658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368056645691128384.post-60120140244065135552011-03-15T21:23:33.859+00:002011-03-15T21:23:33.859+00:00Dear Barry,
They say that the 5 stages of grief st...Dear Barry,<br />They say that the 5 stages of grief start with shock and denial, then anger, and then comes the depression. The shock/denial stage can last a long time (it did for me, a good 2 years or so). For me this initial phase consisted of believing that there was an answer and a cure for me right around the bend -- trusting that each new doctor I saw would hold the key. Perhaps this past year you've been dealing with those first stages of grief, and now you're moving on to the next stages of anger and depression. Fortunately, "acceptance" is the next and last stage! (However, I tend to cycle through the stages on a regular basis!). I miss you and look forward to your return with that "beehive of activity" that always makes me smile.Maureenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03036553766131087826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368056645691128384.post-15429143928386643102011-03-15T10:29:33.425+00:002011-03-15T10:29:33.425+00:00Well you know what I think ..but to use a cliche.....Well you know what I think ..but to use a cliche...it is part of the journey....and really the hardest part and it comes and goes, ebbs and flows.<br /><br />I was always struck by how you mentioned your intelligence (in the academic sense) but there's emotional intelligence too..and you have that in spades as well.<br /><br />Rest up, stay quiet as long as you need. Do what you have to do.<br /> <br />See you when you're ready (*)Cusphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10717783581169397585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368056645691128384.post-85030121088184990952011-03-15T01:29:38.042+00:002011-03-15T01:29:38.042+00:00there is a slight smile across my face as i read t...there is a slight smile across my face as i read this. like that of a big sister who is ever so proud of her little brother. lots of love!elisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17683385486310252633noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368056645691128384.post-540192115505269262011-03-15T00:34:54.026+00:002011-03-15T00:34:54.026+00:00Barry I completely understand what you are saying....Barry I completely understand what you are saying. When I first found out what I was dealing with I was determined to beat it and fast. After a while I could take in less and less. I agree, what you are going through now is healthy. It is an emotion that needs to be expressed. I think you are a very wise and sensible man.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368056645691128384.post-13396588174126098482011-03-14T22:42:03.304+00:002011-03-14T22:42:03.304+00:00I think you have to wallow to really feel. Well do...I think you have to wallow to really feel. Well done, I am a firm believer in it for coming out stronger on the other side. Take care, sounds like you are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368056645691128384.post-1036064915709825982011-03-14T22:28:38.877+00:002011-03-14T22:28:38.877+00:00Hello Mr, I can relate to what you are saying ... ...Hello Mr, I can relate to what you are saying ... to be honest I am currently going through some of the same stuff. I tend to skip the grief period initially and then need to come back to it later. It's what I did when my partner died and sadly I have repeated the mistake with my illness. So, in that you are not alone! Look after yourself, see you whenever the time is right :)Lee Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02614823402670740413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368056645691128384.post-62091197315616785312011-03-14T22:18:00.510+00:002011-03-14T22:18:00.510+00:00i think that going past the mind and into the emot...i think that going past the mind and into the emotion of it all is is a harder step to take for many. and especially for people who are used to navigating life with their minds and relying upon their intelligence to get them through things (as i sense you largely are). i suspect the mind goes into overdrive 'fighting' against the threat it feels within the very body that 'houses' it for lots of people who approach that way. and then maybe it's just a case of fighting until it it can't fight any more? <br /><br />you know i hate to think of you suffering in this way, but you also know how strongly i feel that these emotions are natural reactions and need to be felt and 'processed'. <br /><br />very much in my thoughts B. XXOOKirstenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16189107154073113619noreply@blogger.com